Wednesday, October 22, 2014

Blessed Deepavali

This morning, I felt a bit sad and admittedly annoyed because I felt I had no more freedom to do the things I love -- simple things like yoga, my NGO work and meeting up with friends because he says "I just prefer you to be at home".

Before I allowed myself to get more angry and more sad, I held my tongue and kept calm. And obeyed.

Why did I do this?

Because I didn't want to rock the boat nor make him angry.

That's what you do when you want to make things work.

I said a little prayer and read an article that made me see things from a different perspective. I may not wholeheartedly believe in it, but it did make me calmer and kinder. It's all about healing and why the person is the way he or she is due to what may or may have not happened to them in the past.

I cannot speak about his background nor upbringing, because I've only chanced the in-laws once in my life. But I can speak about my own experience.... and it was not easy living with a very stern father who didn't give me permission to do a lot of things I wanted to do back then. From singing to hanging out with my friends after school.

"Your studies are more important".

I am grateful for the restrictions for I would not be where I am today. But I admit. My father and I didn't see eye-to-eye for a very long time. And I vowed when I earned my own keep, that I would do the things I felt I should do so that I would be happy.

And I did do all that.

Years passed by and this horse was a happy horse. And then she met a bull and they became friends.

When I am asked to do what I am told, without a reason that is logical to my head, I naturally get agitated and flighty.

It used to kill me inside and made me so unhappy. But I had to make a decision and because I have committed myself to this for as long as God grants it ... I have to find ways to make it work. And softer for my head and heart to comprehend.

I guess I need healing too...as the fear and anger is felt again when I am stopped from doing things that make me smile. It brings me back to those days that I was so hateful and vengeful to my own my father.

I will just have to focus on whatever good is left and be grateful for that. My work. My children. My family. And a very loving husband.

May the light of goodness and kindness be shared upon us all.

Saw this Petronas ad and it made me reflect on the past, but to live what is today.

Happy Deepavali friends and family celebrating.

Enjoy!

Monday, October 20, 2014

Daphne - Traffic - Episode 2 - A Day Out on Public Transportation

On the second episode of DAPHNE, TV Journalist and Producer, Daphne Iking, slaps on loads of sunblock and wears her (blingified) comfy walking shoes, to make her way to the city ... without her car!

Friends, Mark Ian Timms and Elaine Yap, accompany her on her mission to deflower her 'Malaysian Rail' virginity.

Along the way, she finds new friends, good food and tips on getting by, using our Malaysian Urban Public Transport.

Music by her Wonderman Co-Producer, Joe Lebosi. (Cause we can't afford Pharrell ... yet!) =)





Thursday, October 2, 2014

Daphne Show Episode 1

So I finally got my act together into producing my own online show, DAPHNE. (Thanks Azmi Abdul Rahman aka Joe Lebosi for giving me the nudge!)

Decided to tackle traffic problems first, since it is such a bitch right now around my neighbourhood.

I'm in the midst of doing episode 2, 3 and 4 now. . . and boy oh boy!

From an innocent "what the hell is wrong with our traffic lah wei!" question ...has now evolved to something crazier...

Find out more...on DAPHNE.




Sunday, September 14, 2014

Pertiwi Soup Kitchen





Thank you www.malaysia.my for interviewing Aunty Munirah so the authorities are more educated on what the Pertiwi Soup Kitchen volunteers do.



Alhamdulillah



#MYKindDeeds

Sunday, September 7, 2014

#MYKindDeeds

I went for a run yesterday and noticed so many friendly faces and kind acts but I didn't have my phone with me to take impromptu pictures. (Going digital is amazeballs!)

So this morning, I decided to take my husband's GoPro during our daily run to test something out.

Based on my article in The Star Metro last Friday, I wrote about Malaysians growing to be a bunch of untrusting folks.

Clad with my GoPro and unsteady hands, I went two rounds not smiling but taking shots of random folks.

a. Either they thought I was a mad jogger (highly likely) or b. an extreme vain jogger who has taken selfie shots of herself jogging... to a whole new level!

The final three rounds, I smiled and waved.
And guess what?

Yup...you guessed it!
Enjoy!

(sorry for the shakiness of the shots).

xoxo,

Daphne





Are we growing to be CYNICS? - The Star Metro 5th September 2014


A few weeks ago, my husband and I were nominated by DJ JJ of RedFM to take up the ALS Ice bucket challenge. The Ice Bucket Challenge went viral on social media about two months ago and became a ‘pop culture phenomenon’, particularly in the United States. Some refer it to “the Harlem Shake of the Summer”.
Screenshot of the IkingAzmis accepting JJ's Ice Bucket Challenge

I think the whole idea is brilliant.

Prior to the challenge, I never knew what ALS (Amyotrophic Lateral Sclerosis) was. Thanks to the efforts of numerous celebrities, politicians, athletes and everyday Americans posting videos of themselves online and on TV participating in the Ice Bucket Challenge, public awareness and charitable donations to ALS charities have soared.

So wait a minute. Why are some folks condemning it and calling it stupid stunt then?

There are a number of criticisms hurled – from it being accused as being “self-congratulatory”, to “cannibalizing” potential donations that otherwise “would have gone to other charities instead”. Actress Pamela Anderson refused to take part “because of the use of animal experimentation in ALS research”. Others warned about the adverse health effects on participants and injuries occurred after taking the challenge. I know some acquaintances of mine condemning the wastage of water in this challenge.

"Think about those in Africa who have no water", they write.

Ok. Hmmm...

Now, all I can say to that is this.

In a previous article, I mentioned how I may not be “a model Muslim”, but I do take heart in the Islamic view that sincerity in all intention, is the foundation of all actions.

When I read about the challenge, I learnt more about ALS and the reason why this fund raising was so important. I accepted the challenge and donated too (even though the rules are: if you don’t accept the challenge within the stipulated 24 hours, you need to donate to an ALS fund. There are some, however, who prefer to donate to other charitable causes they believe in).

I’d rather encourage goodness and kindness, than to constantly be on the look out for flaws and criticism. Call me na├»ve but that’s the path I choose to walk right now. I accepted the Ice Bucket Challenge and  found out more about an illness that I knew NOTHING about up till the videos became viral.

Because of it, I have a whole new perspective of SuperMokh: The Musical’s second installation. I admit, I am more curious to know more about the life of our legendary sportsman now, after finding out he too suffered from ALS.

Mokhtar Dahari

I donated even though I took on the icy challenge because I want to and had some spare. How they spend the funds as questioned? I pray they do it honorably. The same applies for all the other charity homes and NGOs to whom our donations goes to.

This goes the same for an initiative I’ve agreed to go onboard with called #MYKindDeeds. It’s basically an Instagram initiative by Malaysia.My, where they are encouraging Malaysians to posts pictures or videos of themselves performing a Kind deed on instagram. The most creative deeds will be doubled by the team from Malaysia.My.
#MYKindDeeds: An initiative by malaysia.my from August till Sept 15th 2014. It's an Instagram campaign encouraging Msians to perform a kind deed and they will double the most creative act of kindness.

Inspiring right?

Well, within hours, some followers on my instagram started questioning the initiative saying that doing good needs to be done discreetly. “tak payah menunjuk-nunjuk” (you don’t need to show off). Admittedly, this shook me up a bit; but I decided I was not going to be swayed by a few comments.
I will continue to support @malaysiamy’s campaign of spreading kindness and compassion because I truly believe in the niat of the cause. Our nation has been through a tough year and we need to start having faith and hope again. I’ve been pushing for unity amongst Malaysians and I strongly believe the act of compassion and kindness is the basics of building a stronger, unified front.

We need to learn to love and respect one another again.

“Let the refining and improving of your own life keep you so busy that you have little time to criticize others.” – Datuk Masidi Manjun.

That's right. I have decided I will not entertain cynicism nor excessive criticism. Life is too precious.

Daphne applauds The Star’s Voices of Moderation campaign. As a mother of two, she strongly believes that we need to educate ourselves and our family on the skills of managing diversity. This has to start from home with the very basics of being respectful and kind, considerate and compassionate. Follow her rants over IG: daphneiking and Twitter: daphCLPT.






Tuesday, August 12, 2014

Rest well now Robin Williams

Shocked to hear about the passing of oscar-winning actor, Robin Williams who was found dead yesterday at the age of 63. He is a beloved actor and a charasmatic comedian --but those sad eyes have always left me wondering if he was truly as happy as he portrays himself to the world.

I received this quote from a friend this morning and thought it was quite apt since his death is a suspected suicide.

"Every man has his secret sorrows which the world knows not; and often times we call a man cold when he is only sad." -- Henry Wadsworth Longfellow.

Rest in Peace Robin Williams.

As the world mourns the loss of a comedic voice that spanned decades, TIMES takes a look back at his career and selects five of his most memorable roles:

1) Mork in Mork & Mindy




2) Daniel Hillard/ Mrs Doubtfire in Mrs Doubtfire
(This movie helped me tremendously when my parents were going through a bad patch)




3) John Keating in Dead Poets Society



4) Genie in Alladin



and

5) Dr Sean McGuire in Good Will Hunting




RIP our darling Robin Williams

xoxo

Gone to soon

=(