tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5044006622694678278.post9098152499869053525..comments2023-08-05T23:38:38.279+08:00Comments on E L E A N O R: Baiboo article ThreeDaphne Ikinghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07454053469920753980noreply@blogger.comBlogger34125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5044006622694678278.post-17463329735449491402008-07-12T15:44:00.000+08:002008-07-12T15:44:00.000+08:00As a mother of young children myself, I can imagin...As a mother of young children myself, I can imagine what you feel.<br><br>But you have made your choice to be a working mother. You should know that it has its pros - freedom and personal satisfaction (e.g. own money to travel etc) and its cons - limited time with kids. <br><br>You just have to accept the fact that this is how its going to be and stop feeling guilty. <br><br>Sometimes it's not about striving to find the balance - its making do with the choices that you have and getting on with life.<br><br>You are blessed to have your baby in good and safe hands so you can focus on what you feel is important. Not many mothers have that luxury.<br><br>All the best with your decision on this.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5044006622694678278.post-49347912250614203292008-07-12T22:52:00.000+08:002008-07-12T22:52:00.000+08:00I have been dropping by everyday hoping you will u...I have been dropping by everyday hoping you will update,and you did. =). I'm happy now because i'm stuck doing my law assignment. Damn, 4000 words is a lotlah. =/ Your baby very cute!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5044006622694678278.post-85466257521041473682008-07-12T23:37:00.000+08:002008-07-12T23:37:00.000+08:00Hi Daphne...I guess I am one of your millions fans...Hi Daphne...<br>I guess I am one of your millions fans out there...<br>I put your blog on my blog list..so, if you update it, I will be able to read through it..<br>I am not married yet - but I guess I understand what u faced. My mom is a career woman too.<br>By the way, Bel is really cute! U have such nice daughter!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5044006622694678278.post-39409860284498401532008-07-13T02:37:00.000+08:002008-07-13T02:37:00.000+08:00when I ws scheduled for 2 wks training in hanoi la...when I ws scheduled for 2 wks training in hanoi last time, i simply throw all the un-happy tots away until it happens.. during the separation, i kept myself busy wif work n spend a fortune on phone calls.. sometimes u gotta do what u gotta do i guess..<br><br>but i seconds u, have another talk wif ya hubs.. get ur Bel back and spend as much time as u can (bear) wif her.. u never now wat u could miss, her first laugh or her first step etc.. because we can never turn back time u see..<br><br>follow ur heart n good luck! :D<br><br>-am a frst time mom meself! :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5044006622694678278.post-82360478716585791012008-07-13T10:23:00.000+08:002008-07-13T10:23:00.000+08:00Hi miss Iking! I like the posts in your blog! your...Hi miss Iking! I like the posts in your blog! your baby's sooo adorable!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5044006622694678278.post-66307104665736262012008-07-13T18:40:00.000+08:002008-07-13T18:40:00.000+08:00Hi Daphne..I am first time mom myself and i know a...Hi Daphne..<br><br>I am first time mom myself and i know and i can feel your dilemma. As Mimi said..'u never now wat u could miss, her first laugh or her first step etc.. because we can never turn back time'and that is true! and of course you as well dont wanna miss every single things going on right? especially her first 'mamma' or 'pappa'..Well it just a matter of prioritize. I am leaving in Sweden and thank to God that here in Sweden we have 1 year maternity leave so i will be able to see and take care of my son till he turn 1 yr old. <br><br>You have such a wonderful and adorable daughter...so have a talk wth your hubby and all advices are good but the most important thing is 'follor your heart'. Good Luck and God Bless!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5044006622694678278.post-6514302920124863782008-07-13T20:37:00.000+08:002008-07-13T20:37:00.000+08:00i wldnt know anything abt being a mumas im only 18...i wldnt know anything abt being a mumas im only 18. but i respect u as a woman thats why i visit your blog every now and then. and im sorry to hear abt your best friend who was murdered. it must hv been a terrible ordeal. God will lead u in the right path, jst hv faith in him. God bless.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5044006622694678278.post-19524947927047055342008-07-14T00:16:00.000+08:002008-07-14T00:16:00.000+08:00Dear Daphne,When I was halfway reading through you...Dear Daphne,<br><br>When I was halfway reading through your article, I reminded myself to pen in my thoughts. I was going to write what the grandfather told you. Mom knows best they say.<br><br>I also agree with what Mimi said. I'm a father of 4 kids and I know that I've tried my best to be with my kids every single day. I remember their first smile, their first steps, their first feed and not so pinky memories such as their first act of vomitting over me (all 4 mind you).<br><br>Today is gone tomorrow. You can never turn the clock. I live every day as if its my last day with them.<br><br>Having said that, my wife had a career too. We both had a discussion and agreed that since she quits her job so that she can take care of the kids. It wasn't easy for her. It was very-very difficult being at home. Unlike work where you can just switch off now and then, with the kids there's no switching off. It's full concentration all the way.<br><br>There's no easy way out Daphne. When in doubt, follow your motherly instincts. Mothers are the greatest. Your baiboo knows that.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5044006622694678278.post-20987676637475682422008-07-14T11:12:00.000+08:002008-07-14T11:12:00.000+08:00nice laptop.. Sony Vaio kan..nice laptop.. Sony Vaio kan..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5044006622694678278.post-29676909489004386602008-07-14T14:12:00.000+08:002008-07-14T14:12:00.000+08:00big girls don't cry..big girls don't cry..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5044006622694678278.post-7832178115055806942008-07-14T16:13:00.000+08:002008-07-14T16:13:00.000+08:00HI Daphne - I read about you in TELL and wanted to...HI Daphne - I read about you in TELL and wanted to visit your blog but could only find time now.<br><br>As a former frequent flyer Mum, I understand what you're going through. <br><br>3 weeks is a rather long time for you to be away and I'm not sure if your Hubby can handle Bel on his own for that long? <br><br>My Hubby could take a max of 10 days LOL. Even then, he made a long distance call to Africa to let me hear my 11 month old baby bawling for me!<br><br>I think it's great that Bel has her grandparents to fall back on during your long stints away. You'll be assured that she's getting lots of TLC. <br><br>Although I missed him dreadfully when I travelled, he was enjoying all the love in the world being doted by Grandma and late Grandpa. <br><br>My dear father passed away just 2 months ago - I am really thankful to God that I didn't insist on doing it all alone. I let my son spend some precious moments with his loving grandparents. <br><br>After all, what is childhood without Grandpa or Grandma? <br><br>I 'hijacked' my baby's spare bolster during my long trips away and replayed videos of him over and over again in transit. People thought I was nuts. Who cares, right? I miss my baby!<br><br>Have a good trip!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5044006622694678278.post-37557136898317447732008-07-14T17:13:00.000+08:002008-07-14T17:13:00.000+08:00I just chanced upon your blog via some link. I saw...I just chanced upon your blog via some link. I saw you on the cover of CSB mag.<br><br>MY little take on cosmetic surgery:<br><br>http://harrisonbinhansome.blogspot.comAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5044006622694678278.post-57693884017022971402008-07-14T18:03:00.000+08:002008-07-14T18:03:00.000+08:00Daphne, i totally understand what u're going thru....Daphne, i totally understand what u're going thru. I sent my son to my mother when he was barely 1 year old, and I only get to breastfeed him that long..<br><br>But yeah, we working mothers have no choice but to make the best decision for our baby. the crying wont stop i tell u. what i did was surround myself with friends so i didn't get to be alone and thinking about him.<br><br>Since your nature of work leave you to make hard decisions, just remember to keep calling her from time to time even though u arent able to be around her, she wont understand u but at least she'll stay attached to u by hearing your voice everyday!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5044006622694678278.post-28773227826952241922008-07-15T21:03:00.000+08:002008-07-15T21:03:00.000+08:00hey daphne..get down on your knees and pray for th...hey daphne..<br>get down on your knees and pray for that inner strength from God. only He can console you.<br>just look forward to the time when u will see her again and how happy you will be. don't think of whys and what ifs. there is only the present, and better make use of it properly.<br>all the best and God Bless..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5044006622694678278.post-28410892058960332082008-07-16T00:19:00.000+08:002008-07-16T00:19:00.000+08:00evrytime i watch movie similar to ur case..i alway...evrytime i watch movie similar to ur case..i always feel worried things like the baby called the nanny-'mama!'..i think u shud spent as much as u can..and evry chance u got with bell..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5044006622694678278.post-239783671955234032008-07-16T20:00:00.000+08:002008-07-16T20:00:00.000+08:00I understand how you feel Pon, not easy..makes us ...I understand how you feel Pon, not easy..makes us feel like we're a bad irresponsible mommies...but what to do kan, we have to work..no work, we cant provide for our family comfortably. Have to tahan hati...pray for her well being whenever you are away. I always 'ask' God to take care of my baby when I am away. Who is more mighty than HE? I guess we just have be patient and not beat ourselves up..we are working mothers and we will try our best to give and provide...God bless! :-)<br><br>-Angeline-Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5044006622694678278.post-45041127584615021622008-07-16T20:04:00.000+08:002008-07-16T20:04:00.000+08:00Hi Daphne..This made me cry! I can't imagine what ...Hi Daphne..<br><br>This made me cry! I can't imagine what you're going through!!!! I may be a mom, three times over..but still, you can't change your heart, the way you can change your mind, right?<br><br>Don't feel too guilty, please. You'll only kill yourself! Be strong and know that you'll be seeing your daughter real soon. <br><br>Whatever your decision is, I hope everyone in your family supports it. Take careAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5044006622694678278.post-10804426988320337022008-07-17T06:35:00.000+08:002008-07-17T06:35:00.000+08:00Hi,I'm Jules and I work at bestrank.com, a company...Hi,<br><br>I'm Jules and I work at bestrank.com, a company interested in blog <br>advertizing. I found your blog engaging and I'm contacting you to ask if <br>you are interested in blog post sponsorship.<br><br>If you are interested, kindly mail back for confirmation(jules@bestrank.com).Please include your blog's URL.<br>Looking forward to doing business with you.<br><br>Sincerely,<br><br>Jules Viernes<br>BestRank.comAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5044006622694678278.post-84490763404719928402008-07-17T08:06:00.000+08:002008-07-17T08:06:00.000+08:00Hai Daphneu made me cry lor huhuhuhuhHai Daphne<br><br>u made me cry lor huhuhuhuhAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5044006622694678278.post-41039401810624656982008-07-17T09:32:00.000+08:002008-07-17T09:32:00.000+08:00Hi Daphne!I've been following your blog since last...Hi Daphne!<br><br>I've been following your blog since last year while you were pregnant and I was pregnant too! Throughout the time, I just feel that we have more or less the same feeling of being the first time mother. Now, my son is 4 months old but we (he and I) have gone thru a tough time during his 3 months old. He was admitted to hospital due to heavy cold and gone thru suction procedure for more than 2 times per day for 3 days. I don't like to remember the sound of his cried out loud and the pain looking face after the suction process. You are lucky to have your in laws to look after your girl. I do understand the feeling to have someone else to look after your baby co'z I have to send my boy to the nursery when I go to work. He got the cold only after 4 days at the nursery and till today (though he's getting better) I’m not 100% satisfy with his condition. Anyway, I believe that God creates a mother as the angle of her children. The children will always know that their angle will always be with them no matter what. So stop feeling sorry to yourself of not be able to spend more and more time with your girl. (I’m keep saying this to myself as well) She understands you. (^-^)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5044006622694678278.post-15732952142326765232008-07-17T09:47:00.000+08:002008-07-17T09:47:00.000+08:00Oh, I forgot one thing!You should live with your g...Oh, I forgot one thing!<br>You should live with your girl.<br>It's all about the quality time with her. You can touch her, talk to her every night and everytime you are not working. Your in-laws can only take care of her while you are working. She is yours!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5044006622694678278.post-32601383350604217122008-07-17T11:11:00.000+08:002008-07-17T11:11:00.000+08:00dear Daphne..could you please reply my email/respo...dear Daphne..could you please reply my email/response to my question sent earlier? Need HELP and SEEKING advice on what to consume during confinement after c-section delivery.. I have bought all you magazines but NONE of it ever mentioned what to consume during your c-section recovery period... appreciate your swift response...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5044006622694678278.post-22654034642086689792008-07-18T03:07:00.000+08:002008-07-18T03:07:00.000+08:00You know what i dont like when leaving my baby wit...You know what i dont like when leaving my baby with my parents? That they would know my baby better than i do and they will tell me what's she likes and what she doesnt like I am somebody else. It pains everytime but my case i dont have muich choice (single mom). I went to KL to work on her 3rd month. Couldnt find a babysitter and limited income left me the only option of leaving her with my parents (in swk). Seriously, I was worried of the same things you mention here. KL lasted for 3 months only then i decided to get a job in hometown. Now I'm much happier for I see her growing everyday. Being with her at home after work is the most precious moment in my life.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5044006622694678278.post-64010053469534845752008-07-18T08:54:00.000+08:002008-07-18T08:54:00.000+08:00hai daphnesedih i baca your entry kali nie. Do tak...hai daphne<br><br>sedih i baca your entry kali nie. Do take care and i wish you well.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5044006622694678278.post-37074497159796109432008-07-21T11:44:00.000+08:002008-07-21T11:44:00.000+08:00hi daphne,i'm a silent reader.. totally know the f...hi daphne,<br>i'm a silent reader.. totally know the feeling of separating with own baby.. my baby is 3 months plus now. At first, in-laws asked to send to their house but I objected. Better send to nursery as I can still be with her daily (rather than weekly?).Furthermore, the baby is mine!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com